When we’re in the season of younger children, it can be easy for us Mama’s to forget to prioritize our role as wife. We get so caught up in juggling changing diapers, making meals and throwing in the 100th load of laundry that any spare moment we happen upon is spent desperately trying to catch our sanity and wipe smeared food off our pants. By the end of the day we can be so exhausted that we feel like we don’t have the time nor the energy to invest fully into our husbands. But Mama’s, here me when I say this: our husbands are worth more than our leftovers.
Having a strong marriage is important for the well-being of our family as a whole. We wives, along with our husbands, are one of our children’s most prime examples of Christ and his love for humanity. We set the precedent for how we are to live holistically healthy, whole, righteous lives that strive to glorify the Father. We set this example through our actions, our words, and our attitudes.
Proverbs 4:23 is a great starting point for investing in our husbands. Here is the same verse, from a couple of different translations:
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” (ESV)
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (NIV)
“Above everything else, guard your heart; for it is the source of life’s consequences.” (CJB)
Contrary to what today’s culture says, our love for our husbands does not start in the bedroom, it starts with how we position our heart’s. You see, love is a choice. It’s not that fluffy, butterflies-in-your-tummy feeling that we see in Hollywood movies. That can be part of it, no doubt, but real love doesn’t end the moment that feeling fades. Real love is patient and kind, not envying or boasting in arrogance or rudeness. It is selfless, neither irritable or resentful. Real love does not find joy in another’s pain, but rather it rejoices with the truth that we are all valued and loved and purposed for greater things. Real love bears all things, including the hard, end-of-your-rope moments. Real love believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Real love never gives up. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
So, Mama, we need to position our hearts to make the choice to love our husbands readily, regardless of how exhausted we are. This may mean we set aside that pile of laundry that needs to be folded and put away so that we can intentionally look our man in the eye and ask him how he’s really doing. It may mean that we intentionally choose to not go to bed early, but instead fall asleep on the couch as he watches TV.
For your children’s sake, make your husband a priority, and give him more than your leftovers.