So often we women get caught up in the whirlwind of activities and responsibilities that come along with being a mama that we begin to neglect our marriages. We may not mean to, but so often we get so consumed with our role as caregiver, and the emotions and stresses that come along with it, that we don’t intentionally push through the exhaustion and pour into the most important relationship of our lives (that is besides our relationship with Christ). In this post I want to list four ways that we can intentionally build and invest in our relationships with our husbands.
One of the most important ways that we can invest in our relationships with our husbands is by praying for them. We don’t have to spend hours on our knees, but rather as you go throughout the day and think of your hubby, say a quick prayer for him. When I know that Damien has an important meeting at work I’ll pray that it goes well, that he speaks with both grace and boldness, and that his words are encouraging. When there’s conflict between us and I’m overwhelmed, sometimes I bitterly, and yet wholeheartedly, utter the words “God, help ME!”
And of course when there’s the opportunity, make time to pray with your husband. Nothing strengthens a marriage more than walking and talking with God together as a team.
Communication is SO important to building a good and healthy relationship with our husbands. To be honest, in the last three and a half months there have been times when I have totally and completely failed at communicating with Damien. And as a result of not communicating with him, he isn’t able to grasp what is going on in my heart. When we don’t share our struggles and joys with our husbands they don’t know how to support and/or rejoice with us.
Likewise, ask your hubby to share with you what’s going on in his heart of hearts. Don’t be discouraged if it’s not what you expect. Men and women deal with life differently and communicate differently. The point is, make sure you communicate openly with each other.
This is one of my favourites! Dreaming together is kind of like communicating, except there’s just something else that’s there. It brings hope to the darkest of situations. And plus, I can’t tell you how fun it is to dream alongside your husband. Whether it be dreaming of places you each want to travel one day, how many children you want to have, what kind of vehicle he wants, or how you want to decorate your home, NEVER stop dreaming together.
For those of us women who have children especially, DO NOT stop dating your husband. Dating keeps things alive between you two. It helps to keep a healthy and fun perspective on your marriage. Sometimes this will require a babysitter, and sometimes not. The point is to spend time both face to face, and side to side, whether that be a drink at the local coffee shop or a night out at the movies.
What are some of the ways that YOU intentionally invest in and build up your marriage? Answer in the comments below, or send me a private message. I’d love to hear from you!