It’s hard to believe that in just a couple of weeks time our little boy will be turning one. Literally in the blink of an eye he went from a wrinkly little newborn to this always-moving, pudgy cheeked toddler. Every time I take the time to actually look at him, I’m amazed. I’m amazed at the personality and character that is so strongly developing in that little mind, the strength and stamina that is surging through those little muscles and bones.
While I look back on this past year with him so fondly, I’ve also been doing some reminiscing on those days before I was pregnant with him. I can say that I am fond of those years too, but unfortunately I often took those days of growing as a couple with Damien and preparing for our families future for granted.
As a result, I decided to write a little letter to my pre-mama self, a letter that I hope those of you who have not yet given birth can read and be inspired to not take for granted the gift of time you have freely available to you at present.
To my dearest pre-mama self,
With what little wisdom and experience that I have gained over this past year of being a Mama, there is one little snippet of advice that I want to give you. It is this:
Do not rush time nor wish it away. Please.
Take it from me, the time you have on your hands now will soon be hard to come by. It’s not that being a Mama is a prison sentence, because it most definitely is not, but there is a certain sort of freedom that is lost once that little human arrives. You will no longer have the freedom to do basically anything you want at the whim of your hearts desire. Your time will now be ruled, to a degree, by naps and mealtimes.
Take every moment captive. Yes, there will be moments that are not ideal, like fights with your spouse where words are uttered that cut the heart deep, but make the best of those moments in the end and strive to find joy in them. For one day you will look back on those hard, frustrating moments of growth and learning with fondness, because by working through them you have become the woman you are today, your marriage has been made strong, and you and him have built up a sure foundation on which to build your family upon.
So please, do not take time for granted. Instead bask in it’s presence, for once those moments pass they will never again be; they will only linger as memories, and better be memories of fondness than memories of regret.
With much love,
Your future self